Do Sexy Photos REALLY Empower People??
by Teresa Conner
We speak boldly here at Boudoir Studios New York about the transformational power of a positive boudoir or erotica session. You have likely heard stories from others who have done a session and speak of the confidence, strength, and self appreciation it uncovered. Perhaps that outcome is exactly what you desire at this moment in your personal growth journey as you are building or rebuilding yourself, but you’re skeptical. How can taking photos in my underwear (or less) empower me? Is this all an elaborate sales pitch?
After 13 years and over 1000 clients, many who return for more than one session, we can tell you with authority that the empowerment is real, lasting, and for you. The final images in your beautiful luxury album set will remind you of the fierce, capable, brave human that you are- giving you the opportunity to see yourself the way those who love you do so regularly. Those sexy photos are your keepsake, not the whole story, though. Your empowerment starts when you decide having a session of your own is what you want.
Finding a photographer with the qualities needed to give you the experience that matches your vision is the first step. Here are our suggestions for qualities to look for when choosing your photographer. The next step is to reach out. Whether you fill out the form on our website, call, text, or email, you will get connected to a member of our team who can answer all your questions and give you details about our process and pricing. Providing clarity is the first step towards empowerment. This is your session and you will be fully informed and equipped to set your expectations and boundaries moving forward. This is where you will be able to decide if erotica is right for you. Are you ready to own your pleasure? Or perhaps owning your beauty with boudoir will meet your needs best. We are here to give you all information necessary to make the decision that is best for you.
We will also want to know what brought you to this place where you are ready for a session. All of our clients have overcome and survived some experience or situation that on some level may have left them disconnected from and unaligned with their power. As you take the next brave step to speak your truth, express your hesitations, and allow yourself to be welcomed into a safe, loving, non-judgemental space that has been carefully designed for you, you will already feel the beginning rush of accomplishment. You reached out and shared intimate details about yourself, risking vulnerability and daring greatly. Now we get to support and you. That’s how the rest of the process will go; you take a brave step, and we support you in that step. Step after step. Before you know it, you are on the other side saying, “I actually did it!”.
We will walk together through the rest of the experience connected, safe, and celebrated. Your photographer will meet with you in the studio for a shoot planning appointment where they will listen to your goals for your session and final photos. You’ll be given detailed guides for planning your outfits and preparing for session day. We stay in touch with a Pinterest inspiration board and a zoom check in before session day, and you have the entire Boudoir Lounge tribe at your disposal for ideas and encouragement.
On the day of your session, you will know exactly what to expect and will be familiar with our studio and your photographer. Any remaining nerves will shake away as you enjoy your time being pampered by our expert hair and makeup artists. Now is the moment you prepared for. You are looking your best. Your photographer is giving you step by step detailed pose coaching. All you need to be is you. You’ve been invited into this moment to be fully present, not as a role you fill or a caricature of some one else’s beauty standard or desire. You are worthy. You are enough. You decided to invest in yourself and followed through. The taking pictures portion of this process goes quickly and more easily than you anticipate.
When you walk out of the studio, there is a well deserved pride that begins to bloom. You owned that shoot. You even allowed yourself to enjoy it. There is no longer a theoretical assumption that you can do hard things. You have recent, real life proof that you crush challenges outside your comfort zone. You will be holding your head a little higher by this time. It is quite likely you already have an idea for the next goal you can conquer. Coming into a new environment, creating new relationships, being authentic and honest about your wants and needs is no small feat. We can honestly say that each client that allows us to witness their transformation moves us to live more genuinely and walk in our own value. Add “inspirational” to the list of qualities your bring to the table.
Coming back into the studio 7-10 days later is going to feel like the longest wait, but it is worth it. We’ll have you settle into a comfortable seat and view your images one by one. That is really you. Your body is well lit and posed beautifully. Your face is natural and relaxed. That wardrobe choice was just right. But there’s more. Your determination and resilience is in the one you immediately pick as your favorite. Your wisdom and hard earned refinement is dripping from your fingertips. You are not just seeing how great you look with a professional photographer using the correct lens. You are seeing who you have fought to become and courageously exposed during your time with BSNY. Your freedom, self-determination, and sovereignty are front and center. There is no chance you’re putting that away in a box in the closet, even if your album gets tucked away in there.
Whether you show the world your images or keep them private, the way you hold yourself and move with the resolve of a conquerer will stay with you. Turns out, showing up for yourself and living in your value was the empowerment solution all along. Your sexy photos are icing on the cake. You have shed the layers of doubt or shame that may have been keeping you hidden. You now see yourself wholly and get to appreciate the body that keeps you going. Is an erotica session the next stop on your empowerment journey?