I could Never do an erotica shoot because. . .
by Teresa Conner
If you have found yourself loving the erotica images we’ve been able to share, or connecting with the reasons to do an erotica session (Read more: 5 Reasons To Do An Erotica Session), but have a reason on hand for why a session of your own is not for you, you are not alone. At the studio, we hear from people all the time who are interested in boudoir or erotica but feel that it is not for them. It is much easier to cheer on other people than to see yourself taking the brave first step to start your own journey. At Boudoir Studios New York, we get the privilege of seeing the clients in those photos from their very first inquiry, and can tell you with certainty that the only difference between them and you is that they didn’t stop when their insecurities told them to.
I could never do an erotica shoot because I can’t have people finding out about it.
Being concerned about what friends, family, or professional connections would think of your erotica session is a common thought that clients share with us. You’ve seen the brave clients featured on our website and social media, and the idea of having your images on display is not something you are interested in, so does that disqualify you? Absolutely not! Your privacy is our priority at BSNY. Every image you have seen from our studio is of a client who has chosen to share their images and allowed us to use them online. Many clients prefer to keep their images private, and without a signed model release your images will stay between you and your photographer. The only way your friends, family, or acquaintances would know you’ve come to see us is if you tell them. Between you and me, though, I suspect they’d be more impressed than anything if you did decide to tell them.
I could Never do an erotica shoot because I don’t have a partner.
You do not need a partner to have an erotica session. While we do offer couples sessions, the majority of our clients come in solo. Oftentimes we tell ourselves that we need to have a partner to share our photos with, but you don’t. Do it for you. Reconnect with yourself. Celebrate yourself. Invest in yourself. You don’t need a special occasion or someone else to give you the purpose. You are enough already.
I could Never do an erotica shoot because I need to lose weight.
So many of our discovery calls with interested people have some version of this insecurity come up. We are not here to tell you what is right for you and your body, so whatever your goals are, we are here to support and cheer you on. We will also tell you that clients who went through with their sessions before hitting a weight loss or fitness goal have all said the same thing: They came out loving their bodies more than they did going in. We’re going to talk to you about parts of your body you’d like to emphasize and parts that you’d like to minimize. Our photographers are skilled and experienced in suggesting wardrobe ideas to help you achieve the look you want, and they are going to customize your pose direction to ensure you look amazing in your final images. The great news about boudoir and erotica is you are always welcome to come back again! Imagine having smoking hot “before and afters” of that health and wellness journey you’re on. Imagine seeing yourself through a fiercely loving lens and finally quieting that inner voice that has been telling you to change your body all these years. There isn’t going to be a magic point in time where you feel that you’ve changed enough to be ready because you’re already just right. Going through the process and seeing your images is how to get the confidence to own it once and for all.
I could never do an erotica shoot because I’m not sexy enough.
Sexy isn’t a look or a feeling to have or not have. Sexy is what happens when someone becomes fully present and brings their power into the moment. It is breathtaking when you show up with your story and your strength. Anyone can do it. If you never have, we will teach you! From your very first call with us, we’ll be building a foundation of trust and communication that will make your session day a natural place to be completely comfortable. Add our professional hair and makeup by our top notch team, and you’ll have a hearty laugh over being worried about not bringing enough sexy to the studio.
Having these hesitations is not an indication that erotica isn’t right for you. All of us are tempted by unhelpful thoughts that try to stop us from going outside our comfort zones. When these objections start to arise, consider this: The most meaningful growth happens when you venture outside of your comfort zone.
